Steffen - I think your reply just proved my point. I am as asking people what they really value/what they really need. Clearly, you and I value different things. And that is fine. You can disagree with my choices, but accept it is what I value, and I understand you value something different.
FWIW: I will not identify who sent it me because he sent it to me privately, but someone else commented to me on my post that I had nailed it. He observed "I see this sort of not respecting other people's choices as a general trend these days. We want tolerance for our views but at the same time, we are becoming more intolerant of other people's views!"